30 Things I’ve Learned

What I’ve learned in 30 years

I always used to believe that turning 30 was a huge turning point in anyone’s life. After all: Thirtysomethings are grownups. They could be lawyers, doctors or, on the way to being a big executive. They’re fabulous and they have their life together. Just as you’re supposed to, at age thirty.
They’ve found their soulmate, possibly with kids on the way. Right?

I like to think I’ve kept my inner child alive and kicking. Childly enthusiasm, happiness, trust and the ability to love unconditionally are some traits that keep me feeling young at heart.

Would that change once I turned thirty? I asked myself that, but the months approaching my birthday, I was too busy to even think about the magic number. Everything happened so fast: 29 eventually ripped off quickly like a bandaid.

So what’s the one thing that changed at age thirty?

Actually: Just two digits.

But I did get a chance to think back over the past decade. I thought about my learnings and the things I wish I’d known at age twenty.

This post might be my most personal one yet, and it’s dedicated to anyone who can find value in the following lines. Here goes!

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30 things I would tell my 20 year old self


The only expectations you have to meet are your own.


Always trust your guts.


Figure out what you expect from a romantic partner. Become that person. 


Don’t be afraid to take detours.


Master your talents and improve your skills where needed.


Build a career around your passion.


The only person to compare yourself to is you, yesterday.


Be selective with the people you spend your time with.


Use SPF.


Build a wardrobe around classics.


Step out of your comfort zone – one step at a time.


Be kind and understanding, but never a pushover.


Be yourself as intensely as possible. Celebrate your personality.


Change is inevitable and makes you grow.


Never be afraid to be different.


Do you have a chance to spend some time abroad? Do it!


Focus on a manageable routine, not a perfect one, when it comes to health.


Speak openly within your family. Clear up any issues with your grandparents, parents, and siblings. You might not always have a chance.


Your best friends from high school might not be your best friends in college, and that’s okay.


Never spend money on luxuries if you can’t easily afford them.


Take care of any health issues NOW.


Don’t burn any bridges.


There are endless paths for you. Don’t fixate on one.


Don’t apologize for your weird taste in music.


Some things seem incredibly bad and like there’s no way out, but there will always be a solution.


Make your own money. Be independent in relationships.


Get the best education available. It is much easier to accumulate general knowledge in school and university than later in life.


If you get a chance to improve your life, education, relationships, finance: The earlier, the better.


Always be prepared to compromise.


Eat yo greens.

What advice would YOU give your 20 year old self?

I would love to share your thoughts on my Instagram Stories, so the whole community can learn. Thank you!



  1. November 3, 2019 / 5:59 pm

    Happy Birthday im nachhinein! Also ich fand die 30er meine schönste Zeit bisher … die 40er gestalten sich bei mir gerade als herausfordernd. Genieße die tolle Zeit, Alter ist ja doch nur eine Zahl. Dein Kleid steht dir übrigens super gut.

    hab einen feinen Abend!

  2. November 3, 2019 / 9:35 am

    ich finde den Beitrag echt super. Du hast echt viele tolle Sachen für dich gelernt. Und dein Kleid ist übrigens wunderschön :)

    Schönen Sonntag!

    Liebst Linni

  3. November 1, 2019 / 8:53 pm

    Der Beitrag ist echt toll. In einigen Punkten finde ich mich auf jeden Fall wieder. Ganz toll finde ich auf jeden Fall auch die Bilder zu diesem Beitrag. DAs Kleid steht dir total gut :-)

    Liebe Grüße, Milli

  4. October 31, 2019 / 12:52 pm

    Was für ein toller Beitrag. Du hast schöne Punkte aufgezählt. Öfter mal “Nein” sagen steht bei mir ebenfalls ganz oben auf der Liste ;-)
    Alles Liebe Marie

  5. October 30, 2019 / 10:52 pm

    Toll geschrieben! Vieles finde ich auch – vor allem der Punkt, dass man sich nicht für seinen Musikgeschmack entschuldigen muss. Menschen entschuldigen sich sowieso viel zu oft für Dinge, für die man sich eigentlich nicht entschuldigen müsste, damit sollte man generell aufhören und sich nur noch entschuldigen, wenn man es wirklich so meint :)
    Liebe Grüße,

  6. October 30, 2019 / 4:21 pm

    Hallo :)
    Ein schöner und nachdenklicher Post. Viele deiner Punkte kann ich so unterschreiben.
    Ich glaube ich würde meinem 20-jährigen Ich sagen, dass es sich selbst immer treu bleiben soll und nie den Glauben an sich selbst verlieren.
    Da ich selbst noch 3/4 20 bin gilt dieser Ratschlag auch für mich :)

  7. October 30, 2019 / 2:39 pm

    haha ja das kenne ich. ab 30 sieht man gewisse sachen anders, vor allem wenn es um die gesundheit geht :) danke für deine tipps
    glg karolina von https://kardiaserena.at

    • October 23, 2019 / 2:43 pm

      Liebe Jessy, danke für deine Worte. Ich freue mich, dass dir der Beitrag gefällt :-)

      Bis bald,

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