What I’ve learned in 30 years
I always used to believe that turning 30 was a huge turning point in anyone’s life. After all: Thirtysomethings are grownups. They could be lawyers, doctors or, on the way to being a big executive. They’re fabulous and they have their life together. Just as you’re supposed to, at age thirty.
They’ve found their soulmate, possibly with kids on the way. Right?
I like to think I’ve kept my inner child alive and kicking. Childly enthusiasm, happiness, trust and the ability to love unconditionally are some traits that keep me feeling young at heart.
Would that change once I turned thirty? I asked myself that, but the months approaching my birthday, I was too busy to even think about the magic number. Everything happened so fast: 29 eventually ripped off quickly like a bandaid.
So what’s the one thing that changed at age thirty?
Actually: Just two digits.
But I did get a chance to think back over the past decade. I thought about my learnings and the things I wish I’d known at age twenty.
This post might be my most personal one yet, and it’s dedicated to anyone who can find value in the following lines. Here goes!
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30 things I would tell my
20 year old self
The only expectations you have to meet are your own.
Always trust your guts.
Figure out what you expect from a romantic partner. Become that person.
Don’t be afraid to take detours.
Master your talents and improve your skills where needed.
Build a career around your passion.
The only person to compare yourself to is you, yesterday.
Be selective with the people you spend your time with.
Build a wardrobe around classics.
Step out of your comfort zone – one step at a time.
Be kind and understanding, but never a pushover.
Be yourself as intensely as possible. Celebrate your personality.
Change is inevitable and makes you grow.
Never be afraid to be different.
Do you have a chance to spend some time abroad? Do it!
Focus on a manageable routine, not a perfect one, when it comes to health.
Speak openly within your family. Clear up any issues with your grandparents, parents, and siblings. You might not always have a chance.
Your best friends from high school might not be your best friends in college, and that’s okay.
Never spend money on luxuries if you can’t easily afford them.
Take care of any health issues NOW.
Don’t burn any bridges.
There are endless paths for you. Don’t fixate on one.
Don’t apologize for your weird taste in music.
Some things seem incredibly bad and like there’s no way out, but there will always be a solution.
Make your own money. Be independent in relationships.
Get the best education available. It is much easier to accumulate general knowledge in school and university than later in life.
If you get a chance to improve your life, education, relationships, finance: The earlier, the better.
Always be prepared to compromise.
Eat yo greens.
What advice would YOU give your 20 year old self?
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